Leap Year Lesson #134: Learn When To Walk Away

Posted: May 22, 2012 in Communication
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I’ve had several occasions lately where I had to walk away from a disagreement, or I witnessed others disagreeing and wished one of them had walked away.  Most of this has been on social networking sites – both internal where I work and on Facebook which I am on nearly all day every day because it’s both part of my job and personal life.

At work we’ve had a debate in recent days about whether or not a group that exists to discuss politics should continue to exist on our internal social networking site.  The reason the question was raised is because a few people don’t know how to just present their position and then walk away.  They insist on bickering back and forth and spending way more time than any employee should discussing items not work related.  If I was their manager I would either have reprimanded them or given them a lot more work responsibility by now.  The existence of the group isn’t a bad thing, and discussing non work-related matters isn’t a bad thing either, but bickering constantly throughout the day between a few folks has pretty much ruined the group and the purpose of it for nearly all.  Some need to learn when to state their case and walk away.

On Facebook, the times I’ve been reminded of this lately are when I see posts that are violently opposed to basic values I hold dear (depending on who espouses them).  I am Facebook friends with a large variety of people and that’s a good thing for being exposed to others who believe and see things differently than me.  I have no problem with that.  I have to either not comment at all or comment simply and clearly and resist the temptation to get sucked into an argumentative, back-and-forth exchange.

Arguments are frustrating and I usually avoid them.  Whether that is wisdom or avoidance of conflict, I’ll let the psychologists decide.  All I know is that I avoid the distraction and frustration by exercising what I have learned in leap year lesson #134 – Learn when to walk away.

Comments
  1. Tom White says:

    This is very good Jeff,. A lot of this relates to me. I find myself continually having to walk away from situations at my work. Simple discusions turn into arguements, not so much with me only because I do elect to walk away from them. There are 110 emploees in our place and I continue to see this bickering back and forth all day long, and you begin to wonder from time to time that enough is enough, but they do not see it this way.Since I usually will try to keep peace with these two or three they try to keep their spatting back and forth away from me but they seem to always end up in my area. As far as the facebook thing there are several people that I had to defriend because of the things that they post and it makes me wonder why the facebook authorities would step in and stop this stuff. Sometimes it is so bad that it makes me wonder what they actually think about my Christian quotes I put on here, but I really dont care what they think because my true Christian friends will reply with a simple like or even a response.It sometimes bothers me that something so absurd put on here receives several , several likes and one of my quotes only get a few likes.This shows me what the majority of the people on here are really like. So I totally agree with this lesson, as sometimes I would just like to walk away from some of the people on facebook.—– Thank you so much Jeff as you are one of my Christan brothers.

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