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Progress ReportIn my first post for the year on January 1, I shared 11 goals divided into the categories of body, mind and spirit.  I review my progress here monthly to help hold me accountable.  I have some good news and some bad news on my goals for 2013 to date.  The good news is that I’m well ahead or on target for several of them.  The bad news is that I’m woefully behind on a couple and it will take quite a bit of time to catch up.  Catching up is possible, especially since I’m now in a stretch of three weeks I’m (mostly) taking off from work with more time daily to devote to them, so I’m hopeful that my report next month looks better.  Here are the details…

Goals related to body:

1. Keep my weight at or below 150 pounds.  All continues to be well on this one.  I still weigh in daily, and that weigh-in determines what and how much I eat as well as influencing physical activity for the day.  I look forward to the 1-year anniversary of reaching my target weight July 26.

2. Walk/jog/run a total of 10,000 steps per day three days per week. I’m way ahead of schedule on this one, having done it enough days to already be in the month of July ticking them off a calendar.  With our company’s annual 100 Day Dash starting June 3 where my goal is to average 10,000 steps per day for 100 days, I’ll easily pass the goal for the year by the end of that Dash in September.

3. Average at least six hours of sleep per night.  I still don’t record numbers here, but more nights than not when I set my alarm and lay down, it’s for more than six hours from the time I’m going to bed.  I’m enjoying a little extra time in bed during these weeks off in May.

Goals related to mind:

1. Read a book every other week.  I am more behind on this goal than any other.  I’m a few dozen pages away from completing book #5 for the year.  By this time, I should already be in book #10.  I have some work to do!

2. Blog every other day (at least).  I’ve posted 59 blog posts this year, but an every-other-day schedule would have me at 68 already, so I need some daily ones in this time off to reach the goal.

3. Continue to follow My 3 Words: Ground, Stretch, Reflect.  Same as reported last time, this one still sneaks up on me because of not blogging every day like I did in 2012.  Nightly blogging provided a built-in time for this reflection.  Without that, I’m missing it too many nights.  I still think through the sequence on days I blog to see what is worth writing about, but other days I tend to forget about the framework even though I may still do two of the three instinctively every day.

4. Double the blog’s readership from 10,000 views in 2012 to 20,000.  I’m running 20% ahead of schedule on this one and will pass last year’s total readership either this month or next.  Many thanks to all of you for making that happen!

5. Continue to write hand-written letters to my sons.  As reported before, this is only done a couple of times a year, so having done it last in December, it will be this summer before I do it again.  Time to start making notes on what the focus of these next ones should be for each son.

Goals related to spirit:

1. Finish reading the ESV Study Bible and read half of The Apologetics Study Bible.  I am a month behind on this goal.  My time off this month is allowing me the luxury of peace and quiet at home to do more reading, so the report on this next month should be much improved.

2. Review 100 Bible memory verses weekly.  So far, so good. This takes less than an hour weekly, so it’s easy to stay current.

3. Come to some resolution to an unsettled situation where I worship.  Completed in January.

Life has been a little weird around our house the last six weeks.  My wife just had her second knee replacement surgery since early April, so our schedules are anything but normal.  I learned from the first one that I can’t keep a regular work and personal routine going with her in the hospital and rehab and then needing more help than normal around the house.  That’s a large part of why I’m taking off so many days from work now through the end of the month.  I needed to take some time off, anyway, for a breather and to work on some of the above matters that are very important to me.

So that’s how I’m doing on my goals after the first 4+ months of 2013.  What about you?  How are you doing on your goals for the year?

With Progress Report2013 now 1/4 complete, it’s time to report on how I’m doing with the many goals I set for the year.  My first post for 2013 on January 1 is where I shared 11 goals divided into the categories of body, mind and spirit.  Reporting on my progress here helps hold me accountable, so that’s why I’m doing these monthly updates.

There’s good news and bad news on the goals front this month.  The good news is that I’m still doing well on some of them.  The bad news is that I’m more behind on others now than I was a month ago.  One big reason why I’m more behind than expected is that I had to cancel a week of vacation for late March where my plan was to catch up with the reading and writing goals.  With simply too much happening at work to walk away for a week, I felt the impact of not having that time for working on my goals.  I’ve scheduled a vacation week for April and another for May to try to catch up some, but with other schedule oddities going on that I will mention below, it will still be a challenge to completely catch up anytime soon.

It is what it is, so here is the update…

Goals related to body:

1. Keep my weight at or below 150 pounds.  All continues to be well on this one.  I still weigh in daily, and that weigh-in determines what and how much I eat as well as influencing physical activity for the day.  I look forward to reaching the 1-year anniversary of reaching my target weight this summer.

2. Walk/jog/run a total of 10,000 steps per day three days per week. I’m still way ahead of schedule on this one because I’ve been doing it five days per week instead of three for a couple of months now to reach some reward goals with my company’s incentive program, HumanaVitality.  In March, I ran my first 5K race in about 5-6 years when my company scheduled one just for our employees and families in downtown Louisville.  My race time was the slowest 5K I’ve ever done at 31 minutes, 18 seconds (my previous race before this one, for example, was under 24 minutes), but I’ll use it as a benchmark going forward.  At least there were only seven people my age or older who finished before me.  I was #232 overall out of 2074 finishers.  I’ll take it.  Also helping with this goal is that the weather is finally getting warmer, so I will be more inclined to go for runs or longer walks with the dog than during the cold weather.

3. Average at least six hours of sleep per night.  I still don’t record numbers here, but more nights than not when I set my alarm and lay down, it’s for more than six hours from the time I’m going to bed.  I’m probably pretty close on this one.  Unless I buy something like a Fitbit that tracks sleep, I won’t know exactly how well I’m doing on this goal, but I’ll have a good idea.

Goals related to mind:

1. Read a book every other week.  I really bombed on this one in March.  I didn’t complete any book.  I’m about 2/3 through the one I’m reading, but this is one of the goals impacted by me canceling my vacation a couple of weeks ago.  I have much to do here.

2. Blog every other day (at least).  I keep lagging a few days behind in this goal, having published 45 posts this year when an every-other-day schedule would have me at 48 by now.  Catching up won’t be difficult.  Blogging daily for one week would do it.

3. Continue to follow My 3 Words: Ground, Stretch, Reflect.  As I reported last month, this one still sneaks up on me because of not blogging every day like I did in 2012.  Nightly blogging provided a built-in time for this reflection.  Without that, I’m missing it too many nights.  I still think through the sequence on days I blog to see what is worth writing about, but other days I tend to forget about the framework even though I may still do two of the three instinctively every day.

4. Double the blog’s readership from 10,000 views in 2012 to 20,000.  I’m very happy to say that as of today I’m running 46% ahead of schedule on this one.  At the current pace, I’ll pass last year’s total readership in either April or, more likely, May.  A couple of pairs of popular posts have helped the cause with each receiving hundreds of views and the most popular (The Worst Mistakes I’ve Made As An Employee) now approaching 1000 views.

5. Continue to write hand-written letters to my sons.  As reported before, this is only done a couple of times a year, so having done it last in December, it will likely be this summer before I do it again.

Goals related to spirit:

1. Finish reading the ESV Study Bible and read half of The Apologetics Study Bible.  I am more behind on this goal than any other.  Again, canceling the vacation week really hurt me here.  I have much to do to get back on track, but just a few solid days of vacation devoted to this would do it.

2. Review 100 Bible memory verses weekly.  So far, so good. This takes less than an hour weekly, so it’s easy to stay current.

3. Come to some resolution to an unsettled situation where I worship.  Completed in January.

I don’t expect to be caught up on all goals by the end of April.  My wife just had knee replacement surgery two days ago and will have the other knee replaced in about four weeks.  She needs assistance from me, of course, when she returns home, and the schedule meanwhile is way different than normal.  I’m also officiating at a wedding later in April, going out of town for a couple of days for that.  Whenever I perform a wedding, I rehearse it a bazillion times so I can say everything just right without depending much on notes, so I know I’ll spend a lot of hours on that the next couple of weeks instead of other matters my time would normally be given to.  That isn’t a complaint, of course, since it’s a great privilege to officiate at the wedding of dear friends.  It’s just a notation that spending more time in one effort means there is less time to spend in others, so there may be consequences related to these goals that I’ll have to make up later.

So that’s how I’m doing on my goals after the first three months of 2013.  What about you?  How are you doing on your goals for the year?

Progress Report2013 is now 1/6 complete, ready or not.  That means it is time for a progress report on the goals I set at the beginning of the year.  My first post for 2013 on January 1 is where I shared 11 goals divided into the categories of body, mind and spirit.  Reporting on my progress here helps hold me accountable.

Goals related to body:

1. Keep my weight at or below 150 pounds.  All is well on this one.  I still weigh in daily, and that weigh-in determines what and how much I eat as well as influencing physical activity for the day.

2. Walk/jog/run a total of 10,000 steps per day three days per week.  I’m way ahead of schedule on this one, actually shifting to five days per week instead of three because I want to reach some rewards goals with my company’s incentive program HumanaVitality.  I admit to doing a lot of jogging in place in front of the TV some nights to reach this goal, but that movement counts like any other.

3. Average at least six hours of sleep per night.  I’m back on track with this one after a rocky couple of weeks in January.  I don’t record numbers here, but more nights than not when I set my alarm, it’s for more than six hours from the time I’m going to bed.

Goals related to mind:

1. Read a book every other week.  Another couple dozen pages of book #4 this weekend and I’ll be up-to-date on this goal.  I’ll read three and write book review blog posts of them in March to be where I want to be after the first quarter.

2. Blog every other day (at least).  I’m two posts behind this schedule, so that will be easy to make up.  It was nice blogging every day of my week at home last week to make up ground.

3. Continue to follow My 3 Words: Ground, Stretch, Reflect.  This one still sneaks up on me because of not blogging every day like I did in 2012.  It was actually easier getting into a routine last week and blogging every day than I’m finding it is to blog every other day.  This one needs some work.  Nightly blogging provided a built-in time for this reflection.  Without that, I’m missing it too many nights.

4. Double the blog’s readership from 10,000 views in 2012 to 20,000.  I’m thrilled at the progress on this goal.  Through February, I’ve had more than half the number of blog visits I had all last year.  I’m well ahead of pace to meet this goal with February being my best month ever and one day in February being my best day ever in number of views.  Many thanks to the readers who join me on the journey!

5. Continue to write hand-written letters to my sons.  Like I reported at the end of January, this is only done a couple of times a year, so having done it last in December, it will be a few months before I do it again.

Goals related to spirit:

1. Finish reading the ESV Study Bible and read half of The Apologetics Study Bible.  This is on schedule.  Even though I’m a few days behind in my readings, I read a little more daily than required to meet the mid-year goal for completion of the ESV.

2. Review 100 Bible memory verses weekly.  So far, so good.  This takes less than an hour weekly.

3. Come to some resolution to an unsettled situation where I worship.  This was reported as complete in my report on Feb. 2.

My week at home last week helped with a number of my goals.  I’m planning at least one week at home per month for the foreseeable future, so those times can help me catch up a little if needed.  I still use the low-tech approach of a little Post-It note with a checklist on the stand beside my recliner so that it’s near me nightly.

It’s time to round out the first quarter now that March is here.  I’d like to be completely up-to-date in all categories by the end of this month.  Let’s see how I do!

How are you doing on your goals for the year?

Deposits Withdrawals

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Today’s blog post is about dog training, but about much more than that.  I’ve been a fan of the dog trainer Eric Letendre for several years, reading his books, watching his videos, and eagerly reading his daily emails about the subject.  (If you’re curious, check out his book The Amazing Dog Training Man’s Ultimate Guide to Dogs or his website or YouTube channel.)

His email from a few days ago rang true as good advice not just for dog training, but for relationships in general, so I want to share it with you.  The email recalls a chapter in his book where he wrote about “how the relationship is like a checking account.  Every time you do something positive with your dog, you are making a deposit into the account.  Every time you do something negative to your dog, you are making a withdrawal.  In order for the relationship to stay positive, happy and healthy, you have to be making more deposits into the account.  Too many withdrawals without enough deposits will result in a relationship that will go negative.”

Brilliant.

Beyond the relationship you have with your pets, think about the relationships you have with key people in your life – spouse, family members, coworkers, neighbors, friends, acquaintances.  Think about the best of those relationships.  Aren’t they the ones where there is more thought to giving than taking?  Don’t you get tired of being around people who always want something from you, but never give in return?  Don’t you want to free yourself from being around those who inject nothing but negativity into your life?  Don’t you want to be with those who give and who are positive?  I do.

If a relationship with someone has soured in your life, try to analyze it from the deposit/withdrawal perspective.  If you are making more positive deposits in the lives of others, chances are good they will not think twice about the occasional withdrawal you need to make.  But be careful about always being the one to withdraw, or you may just find others wanting to withdraw from the relationship.

Make more deposits than withdrawals, and as the image above says, know when to close the account.

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Most of us have fond memories of times past – maybe not all times past, but at least some.  We think back to times of laughter and fun, times of simplicity and times of excitement, times which we recall as being less complicated or more restful and peaceful than today.  And we smile thinking about them.

Such recollections can be irritating to other hearers from time to time.  Do younger generations always want to hear older generations talk about “the good ol’ days”?  No, although there should be interest in learning about history and how things used to be.  I haven’t had to be a member of too many churches for long before someone inevitably talks about the good ol’ days of that church, perhaps pointing back to a time decades ago when culture and habits were very different.  Knowing and sharing history is one thing; wanting to relive it is something else.

While reading my daily devotions a couple of days ago from the book of Ecclesiastes, I was struck by the verse at 7:10, “Say not, ‘Why were the former days better than these?’  For it is not from wisdom that you ask this.”  How about that?  The writer of that verse about 3,000 years ago was reacting to the same phenomenon of people talking about former days being better.  No wonder he also wrote “There is nothing new under the sun” – Ecclesiastes 1:9.

Is it true that there are aspects of the past that I wish were still true?  Of course.  As I see changes in societal values, movement away from biblical standards, less lifelong closeness geographically and relationally among family members, I wish the trends were different.  But it serves no really good and useful purpose to sit and bemoan the fact that the world is different, for it is also remarkable in many ways undreamed of decades ago.

So what should we do?  First, we can be thankful for those times past that still bring smiles to our faces.  Then, we can acknowledge that the world isn’t going to change course and return to our favorite moment in time just because we wish it might.  We can reluctantly acknowledge that our memory is probably very selective, and that those times we recall with fondness were also likely filled with proportionately the same amount and type of hardships and frustration we now experience, just wrapped in different environments and details.  We can stop putting off the younger generation who may just be pretty keen on life today (thankfully), cutting back on those references to times past as far superior to today.

Most of all, though, if today isn’t quite good enough for us in some ways, then shouldn’t we devote time and effort to making it what we believe it can be?  Isn’t our time better spent making today one that we will look back on in the future with a smile?  If today’s experiences don’t bring a smile to your face, then what makes you think they will do so down the road when you reflect back on them, unless you’re counting on that selective memory kicking in?

I was in early high school when Carly Simon released her album Anticipation where the title song repeated the phrase “These are the good old days,” (and, no, the song wasn’t made popular by the much later ketchup commercial).  If these aren’t the good ol’ days for me, then it’s largely my fault, and I need to do something about it.  The same goes for you.

Progress ReportIt’s hard to believe that a full month of 2013 has already passed.  That means it is time to share with you how I’m doing on the goals I set at the beginning of the year.  In a post on January 1, I shared 11 goals divided into the categories of body, mind and spirit.  It helps hold me accountable to update publicly how I’m doing, so here goes…

Goals related to body:

1. Keep my weight at or below 150 pounds.  So far, so good on this one.  I continue to weigh in each morning, and if I’m at the max of 150 I know I have to be very careful that day, eating a little less or being more active or both.  If I’m a couple of pounds below my goal, I allow myself a little splurge.

2. Walk/jog/run a total of 10,000 steps per day three days per week.  I’m a little ahead of schedule on this one.

3. Average at least six hours of sleep per night.  I don’t keep a record of this, and I know I’ve had a few stretches of too little sleep, but I also know I’ve gone to bed earlier than what was previously normal many nights and have had more evening naps than in the past.  I may not be at six hours on the average, but I don’t think I’m far from it including the naps in my cozy recliner.

Goals related to mind:

1. Read a book every other week.  I’m a little behind on this one since I’m in the middle of my second book.  I have to pick up the pace on this one to get back on schedule.  I should finish book #2 this weekend which will put me back on track.

2. Blog every other day (at least).  I’m only one post behind this schedule, so that will be easy to make up.  Having blogged all 366 days of 2012, it feels like I’m hardly ever blogging by dropping last year’s frequency in half, but I’ll stay with this goal for 2013.

3. Continue to follow My 3 Words: Ground, Stretch, Reflect.  It’s easy to miss some days on this goal because of not blogging every day and, therefore, not ending with that intentional time of reflection that accompanied last year’s daily lessons learned posts.  Still, the regular task of deciding what to blog about brings this goal to mind frequently.

4. Double the blog’s readership from 10,000 views in 2012 to 20,000.  I’m pleased to say that I am well ahead of schedule on this goal.  Through January, the average number of daily visits to this blog is up 179% from last year’s daily average.  January’s 2,403 visits more than doubled by previous best month ever, and January 25 saw the greatest number of hits in a single day ever.  The biggest difference is that I’ve done more promotion of particular posts on our internal social network where I work, and that has helped increase readership.  Onward and upward!

5. Continue to write hand-written letters to my sons.  This is only done a couple of times a year, so having done it last in December, it will be several months before I do this again.

Goals related to spirit:

1. Finish reading the ESV Study Bible and read half of The Apologetics Study Bible.  This is on schedule.  I read a little more daily than required in January to get a good jump start on the year, so I’ve backed off the daily quantity a bit now, but am still at a pace to reach the goal.

2. Review 100 Bible memory verses weekly.  This is not a time-consuming goal (less than an hour a week), so it is fairly easy to stay on track with this one.  So far, so good.

3. Come to some resolution to an unsettled situation where I worship.  I won’t share details, but this matter is thankfully resolved and the goal can be marked as complete.

To be honest, there were some times during January when I wish I hadn’t set as many goals – times when I would have preferred to just rest and relax and do something for the fun of it in the evening or on the weekend.  That was going on when I wrote “When does busy become too busy?”  For the second weekend in a row, however, I will be able to rest a reasonable amount and have a relaxing schedule, so I’ll keep plugging away at all of the goals above.  It helped that I took a few days of vacation in early January, and I will do so again one week per month for at least the next several months, staying home and resting a little while focusing on my goals the remainder of the days off.

As a side note, would you like to know the secret to me keeping up on my goals daily?  I keep a tiny little Post-It note with a checklist on the stand beside my recliner so that it’s near me nightly.  How is that for high tech and for this guy who is constantly online and connected to technology?  Hey, it works.

Overall, then, it looks like I made it through January very close to the goals – either right on target or slightly ahead or behind, depending on the goal.  February, here we go!

How are you doing on your goals for the year?

Status QuoThe Latin phrase status quo literally means “the state in which.”  It has been used as a common English term for about 200 years meaning “the existing state of affairs.”

As we near the end of one year and look ahead to a new one contemplating goals and hopes, one thing that seems clear to me is that the status quo is a direct enemy of creativity, innovation, doing new things, and stretching oneself to be more than in the past.  Nobody ever created or innovated or excelled by simply doing the same old things previously done.

In the business world, many companies want to think of themselves as innovative, disruptive, creative and market-leading, yet in what ways do they enforce the status quo to the point of making thinking outside the box – much less acting outside of it – impossible?  How many rules, policies, controls and other innovation-squelching practices are in place that make public claims of innovation or disruption laughable?

At the personal level, the status quo is similarly an enemy of change and making progress toward lifelong dreams.  If all I do next year is what I did this year, then I can’t expect any results to be different or to accomplish anything new.

No matter what organization you are a part of, the principle applies.  The status quo is your enemy if you want to do anything but always keep things exactly as they are right now.  I don’t know about you, but that’s not enough for me or for anyone who wants to make a difference.

Someone has to take a risk.  Someone has to go where others haven’t gone.  Someone has to buck the trends, ignore the norms, and lead to places others didn’t know could exist or were too hesitant to try to reach.  Chances are there is at least one way in which you and I each need to be that person.  We’re not in control of the consequences of trying, and those consequences may turn or well or they may not.  But I’d rather fail at trying something new than succeed at maintaining the status quo.

Leap year lesson #337 is The status quo has to go.

I suspect that many of us prefer to live in a world where the majority of others agrees with us on significant matters.  Unless you’re unusually driven by conflict and controversy, you have a strong affinity for those who are a lot like you.  That’s understandable.  It’s a fact of basic human nature even if not politically correct.

One of the frequently discussed aspects of Tuesday’s election exit polls is the changing demographic of the American voting population.  It’s less white than it used to be.  It’s less religious than it used to be.  It’s less conservative as well.  That would appear to be a trend that doesn’t bode well for the future voting success of someone with the philosophical leanings of this white, conservative Christian.

America believes strongly in the idea of majority rule, although we go out of our way to make exceptions to that when we want to protect the interests of minority groups.  We say we believe in diversity, yet we tend to limit that appreciation to categories of physical, ethnic and sexual differences rather than diversity of thought and values which are not tolerated well by those on either side of the aisle.

If we learn much from Tuesday’s election, we at least learn this isn’t your parents’ America any more.  It may or may not be the America you want it to be.

As I reflect on the election, I come back to the simple thought that I can’t expect people who do not share my beliefs and values to think and act (and vote) the same way I do.  To expect otherwise is foolish.  If a majority are not conservative, then I can’t expect conservative positions and candidates to prevail.  If a majority are not Christian, then I shouldn’t be surprised when the results are at odds with traditional, biblical Christianity.

It is pointless to fret or fume over what I believe is my new minority status.  It is what it is and I will be who I am and I will stand for what I believe regardless of the consequences.

Therefore, leap year lesson #310 is Don’t expect those with different values to be or act like you.

I recently blogged about starting a new class at my church and having the less-than-impressive beginning of nobody showing up the first Sunday.  I continued to study and was likewise prepared for the second date of the class today. Again, nobody came.

The first empty class was disappointing, but I still had confidence to move forward in hopes that things would turn around.  I have to admit that the second empty class today caused my attitude to go from disappointed to discouraged.

I’m not giving up yet.  It may be that for this particular audience I have a lot more I need to do to make it work.  It may also be that we just didn’t make a very good call in thinking this through and that we need to rethink the decision or the audience.  Perhaps the people involved are voting their displeasure of being removed from another class by their absence from both classes.  I’m not sure.

It would be a shame to have a willing teacher, good material, a nice place to meet, and then not take advantage of all of that, so I’m still committed to giving it a go, but I have to say it is with less confidence than I had a week ago.

Regardless of whether this ultimately turns out successful or not, what I discovered today is leap year lesson #222 – There is a fine line between disappointment and discouragement.

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Here is what makes up my typical day:

  • Work about 9-10 hours;
  • Get in at least 15,000 steps (about 7.5 miles) as measured by my pedometer;
  • Spend at least an hour in personal spiritual study and preparation for teaching Sunday School;
  • Give the dog plenty of exercise;
  • Clean up after the dog;
  • Stay connected and up-to-date on Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn during non-work hours for myself and for my company’s accounts;
  • Spend about an hour blogging these daily lessons learned;
  • Read multiple newsletters that come to my email inbox;
  • Take part in occasional (not daily) activities with family and friends;
  • Sleep maybe an average of five hours;
  • And since I’m married… “other duties as assigned.”

That doesn’t leave a lot of free time to just relax.  It’s my own fault, of course, since most of those things above (except work) are voluntarily taken on.  If I stopped getting in steps, stopped blogging, stopped teaching and studying, disconnected from social media, stopped reading newsletters and nearly abandoned the dog, I would get about five hours a day back to do as I please.

I won’t give up any of those, of course.  I chose to take them on in the first place because I prefer the benefit of doing them to the alternative of “wasted” time.  Still, there is a danger of filling every hour with things that I think I ought to do without placing the much-needed item of occasional rest in that same category.  When the schedule fills up so much that not even the weekend affords down time, I finally wonder if I have committed to too much.

For now I’ll carry on with the commitments I’ve made, but I’m keeping my eye on it.  The first of the calendar year will be a natural time to adjust some of those to a better balance.  At least I put in this week for some vacation in mid-September to stay home, although I have a lot of reading and writing on my agenda for that week already.

While I’m not sure I’ve really learned this lesson yet, leap year lesson #219 is Don’t fill every hour of the day with activity.