Posts Tagged ‘Security’

Early Tuesday night I fell asleep in my recliner, TV going and lights on.  At some point, my wife turned out the lights, turned off the TV, and left me there with the dog.  That’s fine – it’s not the first or last time for that, even though I don’t plan on nights sleeping that way.

The slumber was interrupted, however, about 2:00 a.m. when the room was occasionally lit up with lightning, the sound of thunder, and the pressing of a scared, shaking dog against my chest.  Even though we were in the basement – the safest place in any storm – my dog, Callie, just doesn’t handle storms well.

I petted her, put my arm around her, talked gently to her, reassuring her that all was well.  I closed the open window nearby so the sounds would be less disruptive.  In the past I’ve even wrapped her in a blanket on my lap to help give her a more secure feeling when she’s scared like that.  If dogs ever intend to take over the world, they really must get over their fear of storms (and vacuum cleaners).

In the end, what it really takes to calm her is the passing of the storm, although the closeness and kindness during the storm is what she needs at the worst of it, even if it doesn’t remove all the fear.

How do you handle the storms that come your way – not the weather-related ones, but the other disruptions of life?  Do you panic?  Do you make it through them just fine?  Do you go to others for assurance or are you one that others come to for comfort and help?

It may not be possible to easily change your gut reaction to such life events, but to whatever extent it is in your control, it would be most helpful to be that calming influence others need.  All of us experience storms.  All of us need to deal with them effectively.  Isn’t it better to be that rock others turn to in life’s storms rather than respond in ways that only cause more disruption for others?

Leap year lesson #269 is Be a calming influence in storms.

Security is subjective.  Think of the areas of life where the term “security” is applicable…

In your home – your castle – do you feel secure?  If so, why?  Is it because you’re cozy there?  Is it because you have a security system that alerts you and others of any breach?  Is it because you have a loaded gun or two handy to take matters into your own hands?  Is it because you have a person or a pet present and are confident in their protection of you?  Is it purely a matter of faith?

What about financial security?  Do you have that yet?  How do you define it?  Will your definition match that of others you know – even others in the same house?  Probably not.  Are you set for what you need throughout an indefinite number of years in retirement?

Do you feel secure in your career?  Are you confident your job and your company will still be here one, five or ten years from now?  Are markets and laws and social trends moving in a direction that solidify your career choice or that may disrupt it?

And then there is always the matter of relational security.  Are you on solid ground with those around you or is the earth trembling a little under your feet?

This week as I stay at my parents’ farm house-sitting, I feel secure in my castle for several of the home security reasons mentioned above.  (Test that claim and you’ll find out the hard way which ones.)  Financially I’m not where I’d like to be at age 55, but I have everything I need and have no fears of going hungry or homeless in the years ahead.  As for my career, there is a bit of risk working for a health insurance company these days, but my particular field of social media is booming and I could apply this knowledge and these skills many other places if need be.  Relationally, I am blessed and quite happy.

So I feel secure in many ways.  I am fortunate.  But that is because I live up to my own definitions of security – not someone else’s.  What about you?

Leap year lesson #129 is Security is subjective.