Today is the first day in over 33 years I went without wearing my wedding ring. No, nothing is wrong between Linda and me. Something wacko happened to the ring finger on my left hand Sunday night that made it hurt considerably all day Monday and swell to the point where I could not get my ring off most of the day. Once I finally got it off late Monday night I decided to keep it off just in case things got worse with the finger.
I can’t tell you how many times today I instinctively felt for it while walking or sitting at my desk, only to be reminded of its absence once my thumb found nothing there. It is such a part of me that I feel nearly naked without. I can’t imagine it not being there. That’s where it belongs. If you haven’t had the same experience with a ring, perhaps you have with a watch that you forgot to wear sometime and found yourself looking at your bare wrist over and over again.
Today’s experience with the ring makes me wonder what things have become so ingrained in my life that, even though they may be external to me, they are a vital part of my self-identity. Of those things or activities, habits or thoughts, which ones are really good and worthy of holding on to and which ones are bad or less than the best and should be left behind?
We can learn to adjust – to make changes we never thought we might. It isn’t easy, but we can do it. Perhaps the difficult part is in identifying what needs to change and making the call to do it.
Tomorrow I’ll be glad to put the ring back on wear it belongs. I just don’t feel right without it. As for other habits and things it may be time to leave behind… that’s a bit more difficult to figure out.
Leap year lesson #143 is Some things become part of you over time.